Watching the wedding of Harry and Meghan this weekend really made me think about weddings and relationships. I’ve never been a fan of big weddings because I feel like it takes away from what the true meaning should be. It shouldn’t be a production or a show, but sweet and personal. Big weddings are usually beautiful and all, but it just isn’t my thing.
My own wedding to Al two and a half years ago was perfect…..for us. We had both been through some pretty dark times with our health and other relationships. The combination of the two of us going through so much separately, and then facing some rough times together, showed us that we are much stronger together, and that it really is a great thing to go through life with your best friend. There we were in a park in New Orleans, with a minister, his wife, a few squirrels, and the beauty of nature all around us. No, not in a church, but it felt pretty heavenly in that setting! My emotions were in full swing! Yes, I cried through the whole thing! Happy tears! Tears of joy! I was so happy, and feeling every vow we spoke, coming straight from our hearts. No choir, no family, no bridesmaids, groomsmen, no flower girls, no ring bearers, no friends, and no added stress. It was all about us, and making our promises to each other…..no other fuss. We even got a little laugh in when the minister asked if anyone had any objections….”speak now, or forever hold your peace,”……….no, not even the squirrels could deny us this happiness! Neither of us were a bit nervous. We knew we were doing the right thing, and the timing was finally right for us.
Big weddings, small weddings, weddings in a church, on a cruise ship, a wheat field, a judge’s office, a forest, a castle……it doesn’t matter. Whatever works for you, and how you want to handle it, is all that matters. What happens afterwards is really where it counts! My children have accepted Al, and love him for how happy he makes me. He loves my children, and I love his too. As long as we are happy, and are there for each other “in sickness and in health, for better or worse, for richer or poorer,” protecting and defending each other through anything and everything, then it can work, no matter what obstacles. There are days when I actually think back about those vows, and how I meant every word of them. My marriage and my loyalty and love for Al mean more every day. I try to spoil him as much as I can because I always want him to know that he deserves the best I have to give. And he’s pretty good about returning that, by spoiling me too.
We may not have a castle, or a lot of money, but we have each other, and we are blessed to have that. Love, laughter, selflessness, sincerity, and true friendship……that is what really matters…..til death do us part.