Mother’s Day….that bittersweet day for those of us who no longer have a mother here on Earth. It’s a beautiful thing to celebrate our mothers….even if they are no longer with us. There are also mother figures we can celebrate. No one can ever take the place of our mothers, but we should consider ourselves blessed to have female friends who are there to love, guide, and protect us.
I have several female friends who I know I can reach out to for advice, a good laugh, a cry, or just to vent, and I love them for that. They’ve come into my life at different times, when I had different needs, but they’ve remained….as part of my circle of support. They live all over the country, but I know I can pick up the phone right now, and they would be there for me. We may have sisters, aunts, or cousins who can also be mother figures to us.
What about the single fathers out there who have no partner to help? They deserve to be recognized as well, for being both mother and father!
While I’ve never met my ex husband’s current wife, and I doubt we would be friends, I am grateful that she seems to love and care about my children. I know that I am their mother, and no one will ever replace me. But why would I deny my children the opportunity of receiving more love and friendship? Just as my husband is a very loving, supportive friend to my children, we are secure enough to know we can’t be replaced. The more love for them, the better! You can never have enough, and my children deserve that! But I will always be the only mother they have.
So yes, this holiday is a little rough for me. I do the best I can, even though there are always a few tears, while I miss my mama. I will get through it, and I will enjoy hearing from my three “babies” that day. It’s a day worth celebrating, and showing the women in our lives how much we appreciate them. Let’s celebrate the women we love (and who love us) this Mother’s Day….our mothers, daughters, grandmothers, sisters, aunts, cousins, step-mothers, friends…..whether they are still with us or not……whether they have children of their own or not. The nurturing we do for one another is priceless.
To all of my female friends and family…..happy Mother’s Day!