‘Tis the season of giving…….actually, I think giving is healthy year round, especially if you are giving of your time, support, sentiments, prayers, etc. I have people in my life who I would do anything for. I don’t give to them for recognition, or because it’s expected. I do it because it’s the right thing to do. I do it because I care. Sadly, I have learned that others just don’t care as much. I may be limited on finances, and sometimes my health hinders how much I can do, but I still try. There are other ways of giving. There are some people who never give, and I actually don’t understand how they can live with themselves. There are some who give because it’s expected of them. There are some who take advantages of others’ generosity.
We’ve all heard the phrase, “tis better to give than to receive,” which is from the Bible, “It is more blessed to give than to receive,” (Acts 20:35). I don’t want to get preachy here, but it’s something that can and should apply to all of us, even if you don’t follow Christianity. Unfortunately, some people just don’t know how to give, or be gracious when receiving.
I have met narcissistic people, who care about nothing but themselves. They don’t understand or care about the pain they cause by not appreciating everything others are willing to do for them, and aren’t considerate of others’ feelings. They just don’t care. Maybe they were spoiled as children, and they aren’t capable of appreciating the little things in life. They always put themselves first, justifying this by saying they “deserve” to do that, or they’ve earned it. There is nothing wrong with rewarding or treating yourself, but when that becomes your focus, over what you can do for others, then maybe you aren’t a very nice person. People like this take advantage of those who love them, and don’t think about how it hurts. But then…..I guess they don’t care. They’re very selfish and Ebenezer Scrooge-like!
Don’t be a Scrooge. Give something…..and give it year round! Give kindness. Give manners. Give politeness. Give compassion. Give a smile. Give understanding. Give patience. Give gratitude. Give communication. Give humor. Give of yourself, and don’t take advantage of those willing to give so much to you. Someday, they may not be there anymore. Leave your egos at the door, and try to do something for someone else for a change, appreciating what others are willing to do for you. However, if someone continually rejects your acts of kindness, or shows they don’t appreciate you or care about you, you certainly don’t have to continue giving to that person! Protect yourself in this process! Feeling rejection is painful, and damaging to your well-being. Don’t be unkind, but make sure you focus where the need is. It doesn’t mean you can’t still offer a smile or politeness to that person.
With our current political and social climate, we are seeing enough egos, negativity, narcissism, and arrogance. There are enough Ebenezer Scrooges in the world. If we expect things to change, or we want a nicer place to live, then we need to be getting along with each other, and be the givers. Stop putting ourselves first, and think about what a difference we can make in someone else’s life just by giving a small act of kindness or compassion. And do it year round…….make the season of giving a year round habit.