Tomorrow is the second anniversary of marrying Alfredo (as my daughters love to call him)……one of the happiest days of our lives. Al and I have so much to be thankful for. We’ve had our share of problems, but they’ve been things that have been out of our control, or from outside sources….not things we can help. With each little (or big) hurdle, we seem to come through it even stronger, and closer. I sometimes wonder if our commitment to each other is being tested for everything we have dealt with. We are there every step of the way for each other, which of course, is the way it should be! Our pastor sent us each a text today, calling us, “Team Desport.” It’s true. We do make a good team, and it’s nice when other people see how much stronger we are together.
Since he moved back to the USA, I helped him finish his college degree, which is something he had given up on. I watched as his confidence grew with each completed course. I helped him buy his car, sign up for health insurance, apply for jobs, update his resume, and navigate the ins and outs of a system he hadn’t been a part of for 30 years. He’s working in the public school system with special needs children now, and is really very good at it! He also works part time at a community center in a rough part of town, with kids who really need a positive male influence. And, he referees youth basketball games during the basketball season….he’s making a name for himself in the area, and children and adults alike are always happy to see him when we run into them in public. I love hearing little voices from across a store or parking lot, saying, “Coach Al! Coach Al!” They love him! He’s a church deacon, with a line of little old ladies waiting for hugs every week, and helps serve breakfast to homeless people once a month.
He’s also been there for me, especially when it comes to protecting me. He corrals me when I’m sleep walking, and herds me back to bed, keeping me safe. He “rescues” me from any creature that I may encounter unexpectedly. He walks me to my car every morning, making sure I am safe (I leave before the sun comes up), and occasionally scrapes ice from my windshield. He helps me when I have car trouble. He helps me with my school work, folding, cutting, or preparing projects for my class. He sees when I need to take a break, and tells me that we are going for a walk on the beach, so I can clear my head. He cleans the bathrooms and does dishes! Yesterday at church, I really felt awful (I probably should have stayed home). He knew how bad my head was hurting, and that I was dizzy. Just to have him put his arm around me, and kiss me on the head, lets me know that he understands how much I’m suffering, and that he’s there for me. Then, he changed the words to the hymns to something a little bit inappropriate, making me laugh…..which is also something that I appreciate so much! His incredible sense of humor is the only thing that gets me through a lot of days!
We vent to each other about work, society, politics, family matters, pop culture, and anything that might be weighing on our minds. We spend hours and hours talking and listening to each other. We enjoy traveling, watching movies, or just having a quiet evening at home (most every evening). We rarely argue or have a disagreement. We have both experienced some pretty serious health issues in our lives, so we are appreciative of every day we have. We’ve both had some personal disappointments in life, and are happy to be sharing our lives together now. We’ve spent a lot of time raising our children, and living and working a world away from each other. Ending up together took time, faith, trust, and was a lot more work and complicated than most relationships, since we were on two different continents. We definitely had to be friends first. We were very protective of our courtship, and are still very protective of each other. And here we are……for better or worse, sickness and health, richer or poorer…..as long as we both shall live!
It may have taken us awhile to get here, but HERE is where we are, and it’s the best place for US! Two years down, the rest of our lives to go!