“The only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude-” Unknown
Sometimes maintaining a positive attitude all of the time is difficult. Life is difficult, and our country/world is a mess. People aren’t nice to each other. People are mean. People are rude. People don’t care about each other. Negativity is in the air. Bad attitudes are rampant. I have been accused by my husband of having a Pollyanna attitude, but that hasn’t always been the case. Depending on where I was in my personal or professional life, I have had moments of feeling negative. Is it easier to be negative? Is it easier to blame others for your discontent instead of doing something to change your situation? Sometimes life can wear us down, and negative feelings control us. I get that all of that, but quite frankly, I’m tired of negative people! I’m tired of crappy attitudes!
The latest weather patterns and disasters hitting our country have made me realize how tragedies can bring out the best and the worst in people. I feel thankful for my home and job, my family, my health (as up and down as it is!). I feel thankful for the friends and family who reached out to us when we were still in the path of the storm, offering shelter, food, water, gas money, prayers, etc. Even while we were nervous and anxiously waiting to see the path of the hurricane, I was thankful that we have access to forecasts, and science to support the forecasts. Rushing to the store, making plans to evacuate, and feeling anxious and afraid were not fun, but that’s a consequence of living in “Paradise” (the rest of the year is beautiful!).
I’ve had my share of hardships with the loss of my parents, illness, broken relationships, disappointments, loss of jobs, financial problems. It’s hard, but I’m not the only one. Everyone experiences these things. I have a friend who has blogged about egos, and this is what bad attitudes and negativity make me think of. Why do we think we are the only ones who have it hard? Someone somewhere is struggling more than we are. A negative person’s ego feeds off of being negative, and having a crappy attitude. Their feelings of hurt, anger, distrust, and resentment towards others fuels their negativity. They feel that their feelings and situations are more important than anyone else’s.
It’s okay to vent to our friends and family because we need to do that to maintain our sanity! But some people are constantly unhappy, always looking for the worst possible details in any situation, or even creating the worst possible scenarios in their minds, or about other people. These people are exhausting to be around! They may be overall good people, with good intentions, and generous hearts, but the constant negativity isn’t healthy. It isn’t healthy for them (especially when you want to pop them in the head), and it isn’t healthy for me because they give me headaches and make me start feeling negative! Negativity breeds negativity, and it seems that spreading negativity is more contagious than catching something positive!
There are two ways of changing this. For the exhausting, negative soul suckers who constantly complain, they can start by only looking for positive things, and things to be thankful for. The longer they have been this way, the harder this will be. It’s a habit that needs to be broken! They can write down things each day that they are thankful for, and this will help them to look for the positive in each day. For the rest of us……we can either keep our mouths shut, smile and nod, try not to argue, and go home for a stiff drink after dealing with them, or…..we can try to insert positive vibes and statements in conversations with these people (they aren’t always receptive to this), or……we can just steer clear of them! These are usually the same people who have conflict wherever they go, so I’m sure they’ve had a lot of people come and go in their lives because of their bad attitudes!
So if you want to have a good day, it’s up to you. If you have an occasional bad day, that’s okay. You’re entitled. But you are NOT entitled to ruin someone else’s day because you’re in a constant crappy mood, always hating on someone or something. It’s up to you!